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If I like my nuclear family, may I keep it?

YellowSnow
YellowSnow Moderator, Swaye's Wigwam Posts: 37,847 Founders Club
Worthwhile TL;DR David Brooks piece in the Atlantic on decline of the nuclear family. I must admit I am very pessimistic on this topic. I don't think its coming back, but I don't think "villages" are either. In short, we phuked.

In other words, while social conservatives have a philosophy of family life they can’t operationalize, because it no longer is relevant, progressives have no philosophy of family life at all, because they don’t want to seem judgmental. The sexual revolution has come and gone, and it’s left us with no governing norms of family life, no guiding values, no articulated ideals. On this most central issue, our shared culture often has nothing relevant to say—and so for decades things have been falling apart.

https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2020/03/the-nuclear-family-was-a-mistake/605536/
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  • MikeDamone
    MikeDamone Member Posts: 37,781

    Umm... Damone has been right on this topic for several years. It's obvious. The leftists wants to pretend it's not a problem because it forces people to take personal responsibility and not claim they are victims of oppression. There is no money in that and it weakens their power.

    Moreover, it makes people replace the family unit with the state. Stateists of all stripes want people to think of the government as their benefactor first. Religion, family, etc. is all antithetical to that view.
    A few weeks ago a kid sold bracelets to raise money to pay lunch debts for classmates. It was a feel good story about how kind this kid is. The comments were a lot of "all school lunches should be free". I disagreed. That simply teaches that the state provides your basic needs and the parents have no responsibility to even feed there kids. Of course I'm the asshole because "they are kids!" and people can't afford it. Bullshit. They can afford it. It takes a bit of effort to make a lunch. It can be done for a $1.50 and 10 minutes of prep. But why should they since the state will do it and they can get a few more minutes of sleep and have money for weed?
  • YellowSnow
    YellowSnow Moderator, Swaye's Wigwam Posts: 37,847 Founders Club

    Umm... Damone has been right on this topic for several years. It's obvious. The leftists wants to pretend it's not a problem because it forces people to take personal responsibility and not claim they are victims of oppression. There is no money in that and it weakens their power.

    How would you repair the nuclear family at this point? Seems like things are so far gone for pours even if we could fix disincentives in welfare state.
  • ramenduck
    ramenduck Member Posts: 734

    Umm... Damone has been right on this topic for several years. It's obvious. The leftists wants to pretend it's not a problem because it forces people to take personal responsibility and not claim they are victims of oppression. There is no money in that and it weakens their power.

    How would you repair the nuclear family at this point? Seems like things are so far gone for pours even if we could fix disincentives in welfare state.
    #newgreenfamily
  • MikeDamone
    MikeDamone Member Posts: 37,781

    Umm... Damone has been right on this topic for several years. It's obvious. The leftists wants to pretend it's not a problem because it forces people to take personal responsibility and not claim they are victims of oppression. There is no money in that and it weakens their power.

    How would you repair the nuclear family at this point? Seems like things are so far gone for pours even if we could fix disincentives in welfare state.
    At a very minimum at least stop rewarding people for for having kids they can't support. Offer incentives for families to stay intact be incentives to spilt apart. Refuse to make able body people comfortable in poverty.

    But you're right, we are probably to far gone and there is now a whole industry built around keeping people in victim status and woke people cheering it on.
  • UW_Doog_Bot
    UW_Doog_Bot Member, Swaye's Wigwam Posts: 18,625 Founders Club
    The divorce rate is declining for the majority of those who are married. The rate continues to be high because of inflation from serial divorcees with more than 1 marriage.

    That said, I don't agree with anything else in the thread.
  • MikeDamone
    MikeDamone Member Posts: 37,781

    Umm... Damone has been right on this topic for several years. It's obvious. The leftists wants to pretend it's not a problem because it forces people to take personal responsibility and not claim they are victims of oppression. There is no money in that and it weakens their power.

    Moreover, it makes people replace the family unit with the state. Stateists of all stripes want people to think of the government as their benefactor first. Religion, family, etc. is all antithetical to that view.
    A few weeks ago a kid sold bracelets to raise money to pay lunch debts for classmates. It was a feel good story about how kind this kid is. The comments were a lot of "all school lunches should be free". I disagreed. That simply teaches that the state provides your basic needs and the parents have no responsibility to even feed there kids. Of course I'm the asshole because "they are kids!" and people can't afford it. Bullshit. They can afford it. It takes a bit of effort to make a lunch. It can be done for a $1.50 and 10 minutes of prep. But why should they since the state will do it and they can get a few more minutes of sleep and have money for weed?
    It takes .25 or less to make a peanut butter and jelly sandwich, which will get through the fucking school day. IDC how pours you are, you can make your kid a fucking sandwich unless you have to sleep in, in which case don't have kids.
    PB&J, an apple, a baggie of a few carrots, through on a ding dong and a Capri sun and you might crack $1.

    But don't forget, to do this a parent not only has to make it, but they have to go to the store, look at prices, budget, carry the food home etc... My experience says people who do that aren't poor because they have personal habits that make them not poor or if they are it's transitional. People in chronic poverty aren't going to do it