Question for the Marrieds

Doog_de_Jour

Does your wife call you by your first name? ‘Cause according to this video I guess you all change your names to “babe”, “honey”, “dipshit” or similar when you marry.

https://youtu.be/EwP9KC3jG6M

PurpleThrobber

Yes- she changed my first name to "dumbass' the first year of marriage.

theknowledge

My wife calls me by my name. Sometimes she will inverse two letters in my name call me that. I am 50/50. I have about 20 weird names that I called her as jokes before we were married that have been shortened down over the years for use around our kids. We use first names exclusively in public. No one needs to know the stupid endearments we call each other at home. Babe is never used. We both find it cringe worthy.

Fishpo31

Only in public, or when I'm in trouble. I am to blame, my parents never called each other by their given names, or me by mine. My mom would if I was in trouble, but I literally cannot remember my father ever calling me by name. He called me Charlie, as in Charlie Brown, until the day he died. We use all of the sappy ones, and a few shortened to initials only we know the meaning of. I have become my parents...

Doog_de_Jour

Interesting. My parents call each other by their first names generally, but I suspect they had pet names they use when others weren’t around. Same with both sets of grandparents.

GrundleStiltzkin

My wife doesn't speak to me much at all anymore.

Doog_de_Jour

theknowledge said:

My wife calls me by my name. Sometimes she will inverse two letters in my name call me that. I am 50/50. I have about 20 weird names that I called her as jokes before we were married that have been shortened down over the years for use around our kids. We use first names exclusively in public. No one needs to know the stupid endearments we call each other at home. Babe is never used. We both find it cringe worthy.

Yes! One guy I date called me “babe” and it annoyed the fuck out of me. Especially because I knew that’s what he called his ex.

Doog_de_Jour

GrundleStiltzkin said:

My wife doesn't speak to me much at all anymore.

Have you tried texting?

GrundleStiltzkin

Doog_de_Jour said:

GrundleStiltzkin said:

My wife doesn't speak to me much at all anymore.

Have you tried texting?

#blocked

GrundleStiltzkin

Back when I did have meaningful interactions with women, I always found "sugartits" to be an affecting nom de amore

dflea

GrundleStiltzkin said:

My wife doesn't speak to me much at all anymore.

Tell me more about how you were able to pull this off.

TIA


My wife's sister and her husband call each other "babe", and it drives my wife crazy. If I called her that, there would be repercussions. I can get away with "hey, baby" in Butthead's voice from time to time, though.

YellowSnow

dflea said:

GrundleStiltzkin said:

My wife doesn't speak to me much at all anymore.

Tell me more about how you were able to pull this off.

TIA

Get really drunk and stupid the night before. Works for me.

LebamDawg

I have been married enough times I don't call her by her name only because I get confused and use the wrong name. Things I have learned:

do not call her by an ex-wife's name if you value your life
do not forget her birthday (that cost me dearly)
or forget to have kids get something for Mother's Day (did that too)
or anniversary (so got married on April 15th - a day that I will never forget)

So yes I use other names to call my wife, but definitely not 'babe'

whlinder

Yes as well as all the mushy names.

In fact it is a meme/joke around our friends on how my wife says my name when she is trying to get my attention

Doog_de_Jour

LebamDawg said:

I have been married enough times I don't call her by her name only because I get confused and use the wrong name. Things I have learned:

do not call her by an ex-wife's name if you value your life
do not forget her birthday (that cost me dearly)
or forget to have kids get something for Mother's Day (did that too)
or anniversary (so got married on April 15th - a day that I will never forget)

So yes I use other names to call my wife, but definitely not 'babe'

Heh. That’s a good list.

I always suspected many people use pet names as they are terrified with accidentally calling their current SO by their ex’s name (or whoever they’re fantasizing about).

BennyBeaver

Babe, hun, honey, sugartits...I don’t see a problem.

Fishpo31

LebamDawg said:

I have been married enough times I don't call her by her name only because I get confused and use the wrong name. Things I have learned:

do not call her by an ex-wife's name if you value your life
do not forget her birthday (that cost me dearly)
or forget to have kids get something for Mother's Day (did that too)
or anniversary (so got married on April 15th - a day that I will never forget)

So yes I use other names to call my wife, but definitely not 'babe'

My last three significant relationships (wife #1, referred to as the "practice wife", long-term girlfriend, and Final Wife), all have very similar names, all beginning with E...all with the middle name Marie. With the girlfriend, she may have became wife #2, had I not called her by Wife #1's name once when I was exhausted from work...I swore she mis-heard it, but the names are so similar, I was toast. Occasionally, someone will call Final Wife by practice wife's name by mistake, we just look at each other and laugh...CSB

RaceBannon

I met my mother in law who told me wife was called scooter as a baby. I used that for a long time

PurpleThrobber

Doog_de_Jour said:

theknowledge said:

My wife calls me by my name. Sometimes she will inverse two letters in my name call me that. I am 50/50. I have about 20 weird names that I called her as jokes before we were married that have been shortened down over the years for use around our kids. We use first names exclusively in public. No one needs to know the stupid endearments we call each other at home. Babe is never used. We both find it cringe worthy.

Yes! One guy I date called me “babe” and it annoyed the fuck out of me. Especially because I knew that’s what he called his ex.

Still in the present tense?!?

He must have other, shall we say, positive attributes.....

Doog_de_Jour

PurpleThrobber said:

Doog_de_Jour said:

theknowledge said:

My wife calls me by my name. Sometimes she will inverse two letters in my name call me that. I am 50/50. I have about 20 weird names that I called her as jokes before we were married that have been shortened down over the years for use around our kids. We use first names exclusively in public. No one needs to know the stupid endearments we call each other at home. Babe is never used. We both find it cringe worthy.

Yes! One guy I date called me “babe” and it annoyed the fuck out of me. Especially because I knew that’s what he called his ex.

Still in the present tense?!?

He must have other, shall we say, positive attributes.....

Heh. Damn my lack of proofreading! Yes, past tense.

LebamDawg

Doog_de_Jour said:

LebamDawg said:

I have been married enough times I don't call her by her name only because I get confused and use the wrong name. Things I have learned:

do not call her by an ex-wife's name if you value your life
do not forget her birthday (that cost me dearly)
or forget to have kids get something for Mother's Day (did that too)
or anniversary (so got married on April 15th - a day that I will never forget)

So yes I use other names to call my wife, but definitely not 'babe'

Heh. That’s a good list.

I always suspected many people use pet names as they are terrified with accidentally calling their current SO by their ex’s name (or whoever they’re fantasizing about).

I called her Doog_Du_Jour the other day BRB,JO