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MikeDamone

"And having spent years on one of the best select baseball teams in Washington (age 9-17), playing AAU basketball, and High School Football, competitive youth sports are up my alley."

Jesus. It just keeps getting worse for doog.

sarktastic

Depends on the player. Depends on the team.

Sometimes good coaches inherit shitty talent or kids with entitlement issues fostered by parents, acknowledge the situation they're in and demand excellence anyway causing stress on poor little Jr. Who ' knows' he sucks, or 'can't win'.

RoadDawg55

CollegeDoog said:

sarktastic said:

so, you're just talking out your ass rather than personal experience?

I've had my share of shitty asshole coaches that at times made me fear failing.

You play worse when you have that mindset.

Take a walk with your dog and get some perspective. I had some asshole coaches too and they yelled at everyone all the time, but playing with fear? It's a fucking sport. No matter what happened, I could still smoke weed, play my video games, or try and get my dick sucked after the game.

The worst thing these coaches can do to you is yell at you or bench you. I know kids who got rattled by it, and 99% of the time, it was because they were soft. You sound really fucking soft.

MikeDamone

CollegeDoog said:

sarktastic said:

CollegeDoog said:

GrundleStiltzkin said:

CollegeDoog said:

GrundleStiltzkin said:

Don't let shitty reality TV and shittier PSAs fool you that kids don't want to compete. Kids are always competing. They love competition. I've coached kids, my own and others, in "safe" sports leagues where's there's no score kept, you know, to keep the kids safe. The kids always, ALWAYS, knew what the score was and always wanted to win.

I was the same way. Most kids want to win themselves. The added parental pressure is unnecessary.

Some call it pressure, some call it support.

There's a fine line.

Obviously, one you feel your parents crossed.

After the divorce, you lived with Mom, right?

I actually had relaxed parents who let me fuel my competitive fire myself, playing several sports at a high level.

A lot of the parents of kids I played with were that way as well. But some weren't.

What the bad ones instilled was a fear of failure that makes kids afraid to take risks. That's never good for someone who isn't even in high school. Being able to learn from failure is a lifelong skill. The kids that were afraid to fail mom or dad were the ones the least successful.

That's my official position.

You didn't play at a high level.

Hth

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RoadDawg55 said:

CollegeDoog said:

sarktastic said:

so, you're just talking out your ass rather than personal experience?

I've had my share of shitty asshole coaches that at times made me fear failing.

You play worse when you have that mindset.

Take a walk with your dog and get some perspective. I had some asshole coaches too and they yelled at everyone all the time, but playing with fear? It's a fucking sport. No matter what happened, I could still smoke weed, play my video games, or try and get my dick sucked after the game.

The worst thing these coaches can do to you is yell at you or bench you. I know kids who got rattled by it, and 99% of the time, it was because they were soft. You sound really fucking soft.

I'm embarrassed for you.

If anyone's soft, it's the grown man who feels the need to yell at 10 year olds in order to teach.

[Deleted User]

sarktastic said:

so, you're just talking out your ass rather than personal experience?

That's what he does in every thread.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e1DnltskkWk

CollegeDoog reminds me of the guy that is owned by Matt Damon in this scene. Reads a couple of college courses on a subject and now thinks he is an expert on that subject.

[Deleted User]

MikeDamone said:

CollegeDoog said:

sarktastic said:

CollegeDoog said:

GrundleStiltzkin said:

CollegeDoog said:

GrundleStiltzkin said:

Don't let shitty reality TV and shittier PSAs fool you that kids don't want to compete. Kids are always competing. They love competition. I've coached kids, my own and others, in "safe" sports leagues where's there's no score kept, you know, to keep the kids safe. The kids always, ALWAYS, knew what the score was and always wanted to win.

I was the same way. Most kids want to win themselves. The added parental pressure is unnecessary.

Some call it pressure, some call it support.

There's a fine line.

Obviously, one you feel your parents crossed.

After the divorce, you lived with Mom, right?

I actually had relaxed parents who let me fuel my competitive fire myself, playing several sports at a high level.

A lot of the parents of kids I played with were that way as well. But some weren't.

What the bad ones instilled was a fear of failure that makes kids afraid to take risks. That's never good for someone who isn't even in high school. Being able to learn from failure is a lifelong skill. The kids that were afraid to fail mom or dad were the ones the least successful.

That's my official position.

You didn't play at a high level.

Hth

I went to the equivalent of the Little League World Series for PONY baseball.

I've seen a lot, friend.

MikeDamone

CollegeDoog said:

MikeDamone said:

CollegeDoog said:

sarktastic said:

CollegeDoog said:

GrundleStiltzkin said:

CollegeDoog said:

GrundleStiltzkin said:

Don't let shitty reality TV and shittier PSAs fool you that kids don't want to compete. Kids are always competing. They love competition. I've coached kids, my own and others, in "safe" sports leagues where's there's no score kept, you know, to keep the kids safe. The kids always, ALWAYS, knew what the score was and always wanted to win.

I was the same way. Most kids want to win themselves. The added parental pressure is unnecessary.

Some call it pressure, some call it support.

There's a fine line.

Obviously, one you feel your parents crossed.

After the divorce, you lived with Mom, right?

I actually had relaxed parents who let me fuel my competitive fire myself, playing several sports at a high level.

A lot of the parents of kids I played with were that way as well. But some weren't.

What the bad ones instilled was a fear of failure that makes kids afraid to take risks. That's never good for someone who isn't even in high school. Being able to learn from failure is a lifelong skill. The kids that were afraid to fail mom or dad were the ones the least successful.

That's my official position.

You didn't play at a high level.

Hth

I went to the equivalent of the Little League World Series for PONY baseball.

I've seen a lot, friend.

Again...you didn't play at a high level.

[Deleted User]

He_Needs_More_Time said:

sarktastic said:

so, you're just talking out your ass rather than personal experience?

That's what he does in every thread.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e1DnltskkWk

CollegeDoog reminds me of the guy that is owned by Matt Damon in this scene. Reads a couple of college courses on a subject and now thinks he is an expert on that subject.

I speak from personal experience.

[Deleted User]

CollegeDoog said:

He_Needs_More_Time said:

sarktastic said:

so, you're just talking out your ass rather than personal experience?

That's what he does in every thread.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e1DnltskkWk

CollegeDoog reminds me of the guy that is owned by Matt Damon in this scene. Reads a couple of college courses on a subject and now thinks he is an expert on that subject.

I speak from personal experience.

That video wasn't just about this thread.

HTH.

If you were really "scared" cause some coach was yelling at you then I actually feel sorry for you. Not because the coach yelled at you but instead that you are soft that you were scared from it.

I've had coaches yell at me too, I had coaches who were very much like Sark. At the time I enjoyed the relaxed coach more but looking back I gained more from the hard ass coach.